You may be in the situation where you say to yourself “I’m still in love my ex isn’t.” This is a challenging
situation. First of all, you don’t really know that your ex is not still in love with you, too. Your ex may have
claimed to not love you anymore, and that’s possible. But it’s also possible that he or she still harbors feelings
for you. Many couples who still love each other very much break up for other reasons.
If you honestly can say, I’m still in love with my ex, then you have a good chance that your ex still loves you.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a good idea to try to get back together. You broke up for a reason. Even if
you didn’t want to break up and the break off was entirely your ex’s doing, really think hard about things. It’s
rare that a person can’t think back and see reasons why the break-up might be for the best. It isn’t always easy
right at first when you’re still in so much pain from the break-up, but with time you’ll probably see that the
break-up might even be good for you.
If you both agreed with the break-up and you’re having a difficult time because you feel that you are still in love
with your ex. They should be here with you. This makes it even more important that you go back and find out why you
agreed with the break-up in the first place. Yes, there is a chance that a mutual split was a mistake. But if
you’ll really look back at the reasons you both had for calling a halt to the relationship, you might find that
it’s better to love your ex from afar and work through the sadness rather than try to rekindle the romance.
“I’m still in love; my ex even wants to get back together.” This may make you feel hopeful that there is a chance
that you may be able to get back together again and work things out and live happily ever after. This however will
not be easy. The reasons you broke up are still there. If you get back together, what will change? Your
relationship might go along well for a while because you’re both so happy to be back together.
Just for fun let’s assume that you both broke up loving each other. You get back together again at which point you
will go through a honeymoon period very similar to when you were a new couple. You’ll both feel like you saved the
relationship and kept each other from making a horrible mistake. But that feel-good honeymoon period will wear off
eventually. And then what will you do?
How can you prevent the original cause of the break up from returning and making you want to leave each other
again? Couples counseling is a good option. If you think, “I’m still in love my ex and want him or her back,” then
consider counseling to keep old problems from splitting you up again later.
Oscar Rheasoneg,
T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you
know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.
