My first thought after my recent break up was “how can I get back together with my
ex”. You may want to score your ex back immediately, and this is a common feeling that everyone
experiences.
I was drifting into a emotional depressed state. That was when I started asking myself what to do. You may
immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make
things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse,
chasing your ex away even further.
At this point do NOT do what you are feeling you should. In fact do just the opposite. Do you feel like calling
your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic
steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my
ex?"
Step 1 - How to get back with my ex: Learn to Deal With the Break Up!
Before doing anything else, you need to acknowledge the break up. This is also the most important step. Tell your
ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin/. When you do this, it will eliminate a
large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the
relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she
still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.
Step 2 - How to get back with my ex: Do not initiate contact with your ex!
This is not the time to make contact with your ex. You should cut communication off with him or her so that there
can be some "thinking time". This may seem counterintuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling
that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.
Your partner needs time to think about the relationship and how much they value it. It will also allow them to have
some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the
best time to let them realize how important you were to them.
Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Have a plan in place for the get together
After completing the above two steps, work out a plan for the first meeting. The location, day & time to work
for and most importantly plan what to say. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still
loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.
There are more steps you can take but when you are wondering “How to get back with my ex?” but these three are an excellent start. But
they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.
