You have to realize that none of the answers are easy ones. It is very hard to get over someone you love. No matter
how ready you might think you are to move on and get over that person, that you have to ask how to do it at all
shows that it’s going to be a painful process. Sometimes it’s a slow process, too. You might think you’re over
someone and a year or two later be reminded of that person and feel all the pain and sadness again. That doesn’t
mean you’re not over the person, though.
A relationship that you had a emotional stake and it ends can potentially keep you sad for years. Maybe even for
the rest of your life. But that doesn’t mean the sadness has to be paralyzing or has to fling you into a
depression. By getting over the person, you can realize that losing them made you sad, and look back on it as you
would any sad loss. It’s the period of time soon after the loss that should be the most painful, that makes you ask
how to get over someone you love.
Often, when a breakup has just occurred, the only way to deal with it is head on. You must deal with the pain and
ride it out. It’s going to hurt, no matter what you do. But there are some things you can do to lower the pain. You
can remove obvious visual reminders of the person, if possible. Photographs of them can be put away for a while.
Gifts they gave you can be stored instead of displayed. You can even avoid the places you used to go together for a
while. This tip can be found in pretty much every list that explains how to get over someone you love, so it’s at
least a popular idea that’s worth a try.
If the breakup is disrupting your life, you may need to seek professional help and counselling. Simply explain that
you’ve just been through a painful break-up and ask the counselor how to get over someone you love. They can offer
helpful advice, and can be more specific that generic lists about how to get over someone you love. A counselor can
also probably offer better advice than friends or family.
Friends and family may say they know your situation all too well. Some may have motives for help you get over the
person. They might not have liked that you were in the relationship to begin with, so they might want you to get
over things or move on to another person too quickly. With a counselor, though, you can safely tell them things
about the relationship you probably don’t want friends or family to even know.
Don’t put any time limits on your counselling. Attend as long as you need too. If the counselor feels you’re
spending too much time dwelling on how to get over someone you love, they’ll tell you
Oscar Rheasoneg,
T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic
for us. Now we are more in love than ever.
