If you’ve had a break-up, you’re probably either trying to figure out how to get over the person, or how to win
back lost love. Neither is very simple, but most people fall to one or the other, with only very few able to move
on quickly without pining or wishing things could be different. You should really think hard about the relationship
and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they will be now. Try to be as unbiased as
you can. You might decide that the break-up really isn’t a bad thought.
The first thing you must do is to apologize... If you decide to try and win back lost love. You might think you’ve
done this. You might have said you were sorry a few times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop
a break-up, he or she might not think the apology was sincere.
If the breakup is your fault and you need to apologize, say you’re sorry again. Now they might think the apology is
sincere, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won’t be saying it only to save it but
they will believe that you really mean it. (And hopefully, you do.)
If the shoe is on the other foot and it was your ex who did something they should have apologized for, you need not
press hard for a sincere apology. A little forgiveness is called for. You may never forget, especially if your
break-up was because of cheating, but you must learn to forgive. Forgiving is much harder for some of us than
merely saying, “I forgive you,” though, so you might want to read a book or two on forgiveness and how to really
mean it. If you want to win back lost love, this step will help you do it. And it can help short circuit problems
in the future, too.
If you succeed and win back lost love, The newly patched relationship will have to deal with some of the old issues
and problems. If you haven’t forgiven the person for whatever was done to break up the relationship, then you might
have a hard time getting past everything. Old wounds would be reopened and it’s likely that hurtful things would be
said.
You won’t need to bring up the past if you can find it in your heart to truly forgive them. While you’re working on
forgiving him or her for whatever happened to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you’ll
save yourself lots of grief down the road.
To win back lost love you also have to show your ex that the “you” that they fell in love with is not the “you”
that has been dumped. They were with you because you have certain qualities-kindness, thoughtfulness-not because
you’re angry, jealous or hurt. While you might not be able to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best "you"
you can possibly be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first
place.
Oscar Rheasoneg,
T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic
for us. Now we are more in love than ever.
