The Seven Methods of Building Trust in a Relationship.
Do you know the 7 strong ways to build trust in a relationship? Often, what really makes a relationship work are
not the things we think of first. For instance, do you think you always need to spice things up? Wrong!
Predictability is more important than variety in a relationship. The following seven methods are guaranteed to grow
your connection by improving the level of trust in a relationship.
I know I mentioned this earlier but it bears repeating. You have to be predictable. This goes against the common
notion that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance alive. Sure, going to a new restaurant or giving a
surprise gift can be nice, but most of all, we need things to be consistent and steady in order to make our
relationships work. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.
The second point is that you have to make sure that your words always match the message. This means that your
partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you are happy but you are frowning, your
partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your parter needs to be able
to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message, you build trust in a relationship.
Third, you need to have a total belief in your partner’s know-how. If you don’t you won’t have the trust in a
relationship that you must have. When lovingly communicated, the truth is never destructive. When you do not
believe that your partner is competent at some things (or indeed, anything), you violate the trust in a
relationship.
Don't be secretive. Secrets put an end to the trust in a relationship. Be honest and open. Assume everything you
know will eventually come out. Secrets require enormous energy on your part. That is energy that could be going
into building the relationship.
Fifth, you need not be afraid to tell your partner what you need from the relationship. Don’ t make him or her
guess what you need. Let them know. It is okay to be self-centered as long as you are not selfish. Indeed, if you
are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and smother your partner.
Number six is that you have to learn to say no. When your partner lets you know his or her needs, that is a good
thing. But you don’t need to say yes to everything. A partner cannot respect you if you never say no. Refusing to
be subjugated to the other person’s will actually builds trust in a relationship.
Last on the list, you have to always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt.
Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain. But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for
future growth. Don’t be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or questions. These become the fertilizer for growth and change.
Embrace what is difficult.
You are bound to feel some pain when you make the decision to work on trust in a relationship. But, as you work
through this pain, you will not only become stronger as an individual, you will also strengthen your
coupledom.
Oscar Rheasoneg,
T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic
for us. Now we are more in love than ever.
